This week I thought I had come a bit closer to working out what was going on with New Guy.
He had got the message that I wasn’t impressed with his cancelling our arrangements. He had gone out of his way to do a job he was supposed to do afterwork earlier so we could go for our weekly run. Result.
Then after a few emails he came over and we had a long conversation but then he dropped in the fact he was feeling crappy. I sighed and waited for him to tell me he was cancelling on me but he didn’t. He said he would just take me home and we could have a cup of tea and a bit of cake if he wasn’t feeling up for a run. An improvement.
I ended up finishing work earlier than him and headed off to the gym but came back to take him for a run. He said he was feeling under the weather so wanted to do something less active. So I invited him in for a cuppa.
It felt a bit strange him coming round but he made himself at home and a good nosy around my flat. Then we sat and had a beer, then a cup of tea, and suddenly it was about 9pm.
We talked about exes (sort of) and he asked if I was single. I was doing my best to flirt but it was a bit strange when I was in my gym kit. He made a comment about my flipper-like feet and I suddenly felt uncomfortable. When he realised he had upset me he told me he thought I was feminine and was used to being surrounded by tall women in his family. Hmm.
He is constantly talking about the fact he isn’t good looking and so I wonder whether he thinks I might just not fancy him but I really really do. It comes in waves but every time I spend some time with him I like him. I actually miss him on weekends which is totally ridiculous.
A three hour cuppa was a good sign I thought but I felt we needed to have a proper night out to be sure. If there was no chemistry then I would give up.
Thankfully I had invited him to a comedy night this Friday. We could go out and get on it.
Before then we had another run but I had to go out afterwards so there was no time for tea. He asked if I was going on a date but maybe he was just being polite. Anyway I told him I was hoping he was going to make an effort on Friday and hinted that I was hoping he would be impressing me. We sorted out that he would pick me up and I started to get very excited.
Then he had me crying with laughter about something completely ridiculous. I’d really like this to go further than friendship. Only a few more days to find out if that’s likely to happen. Any ideas on how I can ask him?!
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